It's a Kind of Power
If you haven't already seen the movie "Joy", just drop whatever you are doing and go stream it on Amazon.
Keri insisted we watch it right after she insisted we replace all the hangers in our closet with these skinny ones that are covered with flocking.
I wasn't keen on buying something we already owned but Keri just persisted and said "look, your shirts are always falling off the old hangers and I need more room in the closet--we're getting the hangers". I couldn't really argue because I had just replaced all the light bulbs with ones I can talk to (but that's a different story).
Here's where I'm going with this.
Joy Mangano, subject of the movie "Joy" is an inventor and entrepreneur and someone who had to learn to listen to herself above everyone who loved her (they did), who had more experience (eh, sort of) but above all, couldn't wrap their heads around the idea that she might have a better idea about how string mops should be designed.
There were about a dozen turning points in the movie where she could/should have had a huge success (and that would have ended the story) but something goes wrong, or she is somehow undermined and things completely go to hell.
The way the story unwound for me was in her making choice after choice to move forward despite what other people told her--not because she was guided by some divine wisdom but because she did her homework and patiently worked through each problem.
First she had to stop solving everyone else's problems and enabling them to act like they were helpless (and they were SO helpless).
She then had to stand up for her ideas.
She then had to risk looking like a fool.
She then had to risk looking like a bigger fool.
She then had to risk losing the farm.
She then had to go get the farm back by facing down every big bad that thought they had the upper hand over a little unemployed housewife with no experience in manufacturing and a half a million in debt.
Fast forward 25 years, we are rehanging all our clothes on skinny hangers with her name printed on them.
There is nothing light weight about following your dreams and talents--you need to be extremely tough.
If you want to do something escapist, following your dreams isn't it.
It actually might be more escapist to NOT follow your dreams--staying where you are, being realistic, using your energy and talent to clean up everyone else's mess--not ever having to face really trusting yourself to see your visions all the way through.
My new book, The Strong Woman Trap, is coming out on April 14th (Thursday!). On that day, I want you to go download your free Kindle copy. If there is a "Joy" inside you but you've been too busy to let her out, this book will show you how.