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You have to get all your bills paid but you get a frantic call from your sister that she has to work late and someone needs to pick up her sick kid from work. What do you do?
I swoop in with soup, Tylenol and my laptop. I’ve got this.
The right thing to do is to help her and put my needs to the sides. Who would I be if I didn’t help my sister in her time of need?
Ugh, I’m so stressed out—I need to get the bills done but I just don’t see who else can do this. I’d better get over there.
How is it she doesn’t how to handle her boss? WHY AM I DOING THIS? IT’S HER KID!!! GAH!!! I better get over there.
You’ve been given an assignment by your boss. You are puzzled—you were supposed to be working on a different project (one in alignment with your real skills and interests). You then find out you were diverted to something low level because your new boss didn’t know how to defend your skills to his boss so they want you to be a good sport and dig in for six months. What do you do?
No problem! I’m going to kill it with both hands tied behind my back. They will soon see how they underestimated me and I’ll get all rewards I deserve.
I clearly need to prove myself. They will notice my diligence and reward me—that’s the law of Karma.
Oh man. I can see where this is going—nowhere. Still, this is my job so I’d better do it.
WHY DOES THIS KEEP HAPPENING? I’ve already “proved myself”. I’d better suck it up but I’m so angry I can barely look at my boss.
You find yourself working in the heart of the old boy’s network. You congratulate yourself on breaking in—it’s a realm where women usually don’t get in so you look at it as being recognition of your amazing skills. You want to just blend in but often time the conversation can range from somewhat sexist to downright misogynist. It’s not really directed at you but you feel weird. What do you do?
You give back as hard as they put out so they know you aren’t someone to be trifled with. Men gonna do what men gonna do but they had better not mess with you.
You observe their behavior and mostly keep it quiet. Surely they don’t mean any real harm? You just ignore them and keep your focus on your work.
You try to stay productive while trying to figure out if the things they are saying are HR violations. You feel really uncomfortable because you haven’t said anything and if you do, it will cause a frackas and possibly cause a problem with your own job. You do your best and wonder when you will have enough experience built up to move on.
You go home and watch “I Spit On Your Grave” on repeat while doing burpees and finger tip pull-ups.
Your Cousin D has been having a number of financial problems and has come to you (again) to help bail her out. What do you do?
I have the answer! D just needs some credit counseling and to work with a planner so she doesn’t go down this road again. I’ll get her all set up and come with her to her first few meetings to make sure she’s doing what she needs to do. I can probably help with a bridge loan in the mean time.
Cousin D has had a hard life. I have the money so I can help. I wouldn’t be so blessed if I wasn’t supposed to help with things like this.
Sheesh, how often is this going to keep happening? I’d better do something or she’s going to be living in her car.
Cousin D is an idiot! Why do I keep bailing her out??? UGH!!! I’ll help but she is going to hear about this for the next ten years if she doesn’t straighten this sh1t out!
You’ve been working extremely hard at work and at home. You are more or less used to this BUT you are having a harder and harder time getting it together in the morning. You are so run down. What do you do?
Clearly I need to pay better attention to my diet. Green smoothies and giving up sugar should do the trick!
I need to connect with my higher power to get through this low spot. I’m going to write out my gratitude list. This too shall pass. Everything happens for a reason.
I need to get out of bed. Maybe just a few more hours of sleep should fix this. Maybe I’ll get up tomorrow.
(uncontrollable sobbing between long pulls on a whiskey bottle)
Your partner’s family is in town. You love these people but you’ve been working really long hours and were looking forward to a night of Netflix and a hot bath. You then hear from your partner that they are coming over for dinner TONIGHT!
Hey life is short! I know exactly what to make—I just need to run by the store for ingredients. Hope they don’t mind if I don’t make dessert from scratch!
There is no greater love than caring for family—dinner might be late but it will be prepared with Vitamin L.
I am so tired. I know they are probably expecting one of my home cooked meals. Dang it. Wish I had more time to prepare (heavy sigh).
WHAAAAATTTTTTT????????? ARE YOU KIDDING ME????? (sound of pans banging around noisily and cupboard doors slamming).
What’s your favorite dessert?
Fresh fruit—nature's dessert.
Angel-food cake (but the people at your table keep trying to order the “cheese” platter for you).
Anything chocolate (options include eating baking chips right out of the bag).
Deep fried rage.
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